(You Don’t Have to Do This Alone)
Writing can feel like a solo sport. It’s just you, your idea, and a blinking cursor that may or may not be judging you.
But here’s the truth.
Writing is easier, better, and a whole lot more fun when you’re not doing it in a vacuum.
Enter the writing group.
A good writing group can be a source of motivation, feedback, support, and even friendship. It can help you get unstuck, push through drafts, and remember why you wanted to write in the first place.
But not all writing groups are created equal. So let’s talk about what makes a writing group actually helpful, how to find one that fits your needs, and what to expect once you’re in.
What a Writing Group Can Do for You
A solid group can offer:
Accountability
When you know someone’s expecting a chapter, a check-in, or a word count update, you’re more likely to show up and do the work. It helps keep you moving even when motivation is low.
Feedback
You don’t have to wonder if your plot makes sense or if your dialogue is flat. A good group will gently, honestly, and helpfully point things out.
Encouragement
Rejections? They get it. Bad writing days? They’ve had them too. A writing group is a built-in crew of people who understand exactly what you’re going through.
Fresh Ideas
Stuck on a scene? Trying to name a character? Need to brainstorm a twist? Group members can help you think in new directions.
Community
Writing is emotional. You’ll have moments of doubt and celebration. It’s nice to have people who get it and can cheer for you without needing an explanation.
What a Writing Group Isn’t
Before you join, be clear about expectations. A writing group supports craft and growth; it’s not a shortcut for doing the work.
It is not a free editing service
A group gives big-picture reactions and craft notes, not line-by-line edits. Think headlights, not a mechanic. If you need detailed editing, hire a pro.
It is not endless praise
Encouragement matters, but vague “love this” doesn’t help. Useful praise is specific: “This image landed” or “I believed her decision here.”
It is not therapy
Stories touch tender things. A good group allows feelings but stays focused on the work. If something personal comes up, seek extra support outside the group.
It is not a competition
Don’t measure yourself by someone else’s timeline. A healthy room celebrates progress without turning it into a race.
The heartbeat of a healthy group
When it works, there’s momentum and trust. People show up. Pages move. Feedback is kind, specific, and actionable.
If you sense drift, try a reset
Refocus with clear language: “Can we stay big-picture on this chapter?” or “I want scene-level notes, not grammar.” A little clarity goes a long way.
What to Look For in a Writing Group
Every writer has different needs, but here are some green flags to watch for:
1. Shared Goals
Are you all drafting novels? Writing short stories? Preparing for self-publishing? A group that’s aligned on goals will be more helpful and focused.
2. A Supportive Tone
Feedback should be honest, but also kind. A good group knows how to point out what’s not working without making you feel like giving up.
3. A Structure That Works for You
Some groups meet weekly. Others are asynchronous, using apps or emails. Some focus on critique, while others are all about writing sprints. Find a format that fits your schedule and energy level.
4. Commitment
Everyone should be putting in effort. That doesn’t mean showing up every day, but it does mean showing up consistently, reading each other’s work, and offering thoughtful responses.
5. Clear Boundaries
A great group has rules. How often do you meet? What’s the page limit for sharing? How do members give feedback? Boundaries help everyone feel safe and respected.
Where to Find a Good Writing Group
1. Local Libraries and Bookstores
Many host writing workshops or have bulletin boards with group info.
2. Facebook Groups and Reddit
Search for genre-specific or local writing communities. Look for active groups with positive, encouraging cultures.
3. Discord Servers
Some writing-focused servers are packed with channels for brainstorming, feedback, sprints, and support.
4. NaNoWriMo Forums
These are active year-round now, not just in November. Plenty of writers form small critique groups here.
5. Writing Classes or Workshops
Taking a class (online or in person) often leads to smaller breakout groups or long-term writing partnerships.
6. Start Your Own
If you can’t find what you need, make it. Invite a few fellow writers you trust and try a test run. Set ground rules and see how it goes.
How to Be a Good Group Member
Joining a group is just the first step. Being part of a helpful, healthy writing group also means being a thoughtful contributor. A few tips:
- Give more than you take. Offer feedback, encouragement, and ideas freely.
- Be specific in your responses. “I loved this!” is nice, but “This character’s reaction here felt really real to me” is more helpful.
- Honor deadlines and commitments.
- Respect boundaries. If someone asks for no grammar comments, skip the grammar comments.
- Leave space for other voices. A group is not your personal critique soapbox.
The best groups are built on generosity and trust.
What If You Try One and It Doesn’t Work?
That’s okay. Not every group is the right fit.
Maybe the tone feels harsh, the structure too rigid, or the people kind but the feedback unhelpful.
You’re allowed to leave.
You’re allowed to say, “This isn’t quite what I need right now.”
You don’t owe anyone your time or energy if it’s not working.
Sometimes finding the right group takes a few tries. That doesn’t mean you failed. It just means you’re learning what kind of support helps you thrive.
Final Thoughts
You don’t have to wonder if your plot makes sense or if your dialogue is flat. A good group will gently, honestly, and helpfully point things out.
And if dialogue is one of the places you most want to grow, see How to Write Compelling Dialogue — because nothing improves your ear for conversation like practicing it with other writers who will tell you what rings true (and what doesn’t).
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